Every second of our lives, human beings feel and get emotional. Either because we saw something that made us laugh and moments later we saw ...
Every second of our lives, human beings feel and get emotional. Either because we saw something that made us laugh and moments later we saw a sad video. We are always feeling and getting excited. However, the reality is that what we feel we do not give much importance to except when it comes to attraction, love, hate, or anger.When it comes to emotions that we consider positive, we enjoy them. The situation is different when it comes to afflictive emotions; we usually feel denied or repressed by not feeling comfortable and having a hard time.
Despite this, limiting ourselves to denying them, is to deny our own lack, with all and discomfort. Emotions are much more than that; they are a kind of alarm that announce internal states in which they have an important function.
What are afflictive emotions?
Affecting emotions affect our relationship with ourselves and with those around us. What makes them negative is that these emotions cause us to emphasize the bad. In addition to the feeling of mental discomfort, there is the physical sensation that these emotions leave behind.
An example of this may be that when you feel anger, your face gets hot and you tremble from the emotion generated.
Emotions are linked to thoughts and behavior. In other words, how we feel influences the interpretation of a situation and what we decide to do next.
Emotions are neither good nor bad. It is how we act when we feel them that dictates their meaning or meaning.
Suppose you discover that your best friend speaks ill of you. As expected, you feel hurt and betrayed and the effect of that, you feel a lot of anger. What are you going to do? you decide: you can look for her and explode in complaints, or you walk away from that person and never speak to her again.
How do they appear and what are they?
A great feature is that they are unavoidable; that is, they simply appear. Of course, you can control them, but you need to work on your self-control to do so. In addition to this, you must also develop a great sense of respect for others.
Some afflictive emotions are:
Gonna
Rejection
Loneliness
Resentment
Jealousy
Avarice
Fear
Fault
Sadness
Fear
Hostility
Resentment
Envy
Frustration
Disappointment
Repulsion
Difference between afflictive and constructive emotions
The big difference between afflictive and constructive emotions is that the former paralyzes and the latter allows us to learn.
Furthermore, afflictive emotions cause our thoughts to become negative and we develop a tendency to think in a biased way.
Put practically, afflictive emotions make us see the extremes of a situation and not the whole context. Add to it, that makes us take everything personally and this makes us somatic; that is, we get sick because of these emotions.
Instead, constructive emotions open the way for us to find solutions to a problematic situation.
They allow us to learn and help us develop resilience.
What is the importance of afflictive emotions?
These emotions function as signals that something is wrong or not working as it is supposed to. They are the guide map in the middle of a maze.
It is very possible that we do not understand what happens to us, but we can feel it. It's like that projective psychological process that no one is aware of, but it's obvious to your therapist.
For example: if you "don't like" someone you don't know at all because, from your perspective, they are "hateful". Guess who's the hater? That's right, we usually see in others what we don't like about ourselves. This emotion is not pleasant. We don't know why we feel this way; what is true is that it is a sign that you do not like that aspect of your personality and it makes you feel dissatisfied. As you can see, it gives you valuable information about yourself that goes unnoticed when you are not aware.
When these types of emotions are taken seriously, what we do is take care of our health. When we live half the day angrily, stressed, and upset, not only are you going to end up very sick; Besides, we're going to be alone.
Controlling your afflictive emotions
The recommendations are as follows:
1 Accept that they exist: You cannot cover the sun with a finger. Denying that you're mad that your partner won you that promotion isn't going to help you feel better.
Life is a series of ups and downs. What you have to see in them is the opportunity for growth, not how bad they make us feel.
2 Find their practical side:
These emotions have a message to give us. It is a matter of asking ourselves why that situation made us feel that way; this will lead you to discover more than you think is happening.
3 Analyze our self-talk:
When something makes us angry-for example-we can realize that the intensity of the sensation does not exceed two minutes; however, if we remember the upsetting event again, that emotion will be renewed. The renewal depends on the idea with which the emotion is associated. That idea is sustained by what we tell ourselves. That's why it's important to listen to how we talk to each other and how we label ourselves.
Last but not least, you should keep in mind that you cannot go exploding with anger everywhere. There are emotions that are socially accepted and others that are not. It is not a matter of repressing, but of control. You must make amends with what you feel and solve the problems that hide behind what you don't like to feel.
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