Romance is as old as humanity itself. In every era and every culture, something different is considered romantic. And everyone feels somethi...
In every era and every culture, something different is considered romantic. And everyone feels something else emotional.
Some like a romantic mood and some are more of the harsh type and reject it.
A candlelight meal is very intimate for many, rose petals on the bed repel some.
However, you should always show your partner courtesy, attention, and respect.
Both at the first meeting and in the first chat, you have to get an idea of the person opposite. Some find romantic behavior cheesy, for others, it's part of flirting.
Online dating is a new way of finding a partner
Online dating is becoming more popular in today's increasingly virtual world.
Just sit in front of the computer, create a profile on a dating site, and receive and send inquiries. And maybe get to know your dream partner without having to leave the house for the time being.
Where you used to have to struggle to speak to an interesting person in a bar, you can now - even anonymously - send a message to the person of your choice at any time.
But the aforementioned bar also has its appeal. Here you can see the person who catches your eye in real life. And get a better picture of her when you invite her out for a drink, for example. You usually notice pretty quickly whether the chemistry is right.
On dating sites, you have to register first. Then you create your profile. Many details make you more interesting and the search for a suitable partner easier.
If you have fought your way through all the information about yourself, your interests, and the requirements of an ideal partner, you will receive partner suggestions.
These are linked to similar hobbies and your own description.
Usually then begins the paid part. If you want to write proposals, you can't do that until you invest money.
Nevertheless, there are also free dating portals. There is more information about the differences between paid and free portals on the website.
Show your romantic streak right away?
Everyone has to decide for themselves whether they should show their romantic streak when they first meet someone.
Are you a naturally romantic person? Does the (online) counterpart also like emotionalism?
Of course, too much of a good thing can also repel the potential partner and come across as pushy if you woo them in a too cheesy way.
Emphasizing in the very first chat or meeting that you want to marry your interlocutor, remain faithful forever and put heaven on earth at your feet is not the truth. After all, you don't know each other yet and after the first meeting in real life, you can't conclude that there will be a future together.
Gentle emotional depths like holding the door on a date or paying the bill is polite and desirable for most women (and some men). Because the man does not always have to show cavalier behavior!
A "sweet dreams" wish or a rose smiley after the first chat may not seem particularly intrusive.
You have to consider how the other person reacts to romantic statements or gestures, how they feel about them. And that after a few chats and maybe a meeting, you don't really know each other to make deep promises and indulge in corny behaviors.
Some men are not particularly inclined to romance, some just can't get enough of it. Today women are often very emancipated and prefer to hold the door open themselves, others even want the man to help them into their jacket.
This is also very different and depends on the person.
In general, there are no longer any relevant differences in the emotional sensitivity of men and women.
But sometimes it is also culture-related and age-related.
Then of course there are the specimens of men and women who may not be looking for love but more of an adventure.
The promise: "Yours forever" is probably a bit out of place.
In summary, both a woman and a man can easily be repulsed by too many romantic gestures. Especially if you are still in the introductory phase.
A love poem needs to be well thought out
This leads to a very romantic gesture: writing a love poem.
Again, at the beginning of getting to know each other, a literary outpouring about the beauty and virtue of the potential partner might seem slightly intrusive.
Especially if you're not particularly talented in literature. If you've known each other for a long time and have the first butterflies in your stomach, it's easier to overlook grammatical errors and rhyming forms that don't quite fit in the poems.
However, writing a poem right at the beginning is usually a bit too much.
Unless one is exceptionally gifted in poetry and the reader of the Love Message is very interested in poetry.
In addition, you don't know your chat partner or date any better. And in order to avoid a run-of-the-mill poem, one should already know a few idiosyncrasies and the character of his or her beloved.
Again, everyone is different, everyone likes different things when dating. Especially in romance. Maybe you are lucky with your love poem and open the heart of your future partner.
A literary work also shows sensitivity, creativity, and sophistication. A lot of people expect that from their partner.
Most of the time, however, this is already in the profile information and a slow touch with this gesture is never wrong.
Otherwise, you end up as a laughing stock without a chance. And a broken heart heals slowly and never quite.
Conclusion
With the large selection of dating portals and of course potential partners in real life, it is always worth being yourself.
Especially on the internet, you can portray a person that has nothing to do with self.
But that comes out sooner or later (at the first meeting, for example) and only bring trouble and frustration on both sides.
If you are more romantic, you should indicate that right away, you don't have to exaggerate.
After all, you want to fall in love with the real person and not with a played role. Honesty also counts a lot here, because it's about love and relationship. And there you should not have dark secrets or end up destroying someone's trust.
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